Screaming on the Inside: The Meltdown Continues

Well…

This entry may be a little lengthy. However, despite the length, whatever is on the inside, it is fighting to the surface.

In my last blog entry, I mentioned that I, along with the help of many others, was able to get the $400 nonrefundable deposit fee submitted and secured. Now, there are two things left: finding a place to stay and finding a job. Before the completion of the application, I was worried about finding a place to live and a job. Of course, many have been reassuring me that I will definitely find a job and a place. Just like then and now, I’m still not at ease.

My nervousness has been escalating from afraid to scared to being terrified. On the outside, I’m doing everything I can to maintain my composure. But on the inside, I’m spiraling askew. Last night, I had trouble sleeping. Earlier yesterday, I was exhausted. However, when it was time to go to bed, it was like my mind was fully awakened by everything gnawing away at me. Physically, I felt the effect; I sat up on the side of the bed with my head in arms, literally, attempting to shake it out. I ended up taking medication to help me sleep; and, it worked. Truthfully, deep down in the back of my mind, I know the two factors are just the components of the whole ordeal. What do I mean? I’m glad you asked.

It’s not just moving to Boston, going to school, finding a place to stay, or even finding a job. The “wow” factor is this is the BIG Change I’ve been searching for over the years. Although it feels like a “too good to be true” moment, it’s happening nonetheless. Everything has been placed in motion. I couldn’t stop it even if I wanted to. Then again, do I really want to? All these years, I have always given everyone all of me. No matter who they were: family, friends, significant others, strangers, etc. I’ve always given and expected nothing in return because I felt it was the right thing to do. Now, I’m learning that I’ve poured myself into others that I can’t pour into me. I can’t save or help anyone in the condition I’m in now. I’m healing, but it’s a process that can’t be rushed. In the interim, I still have to wait and let this process run its course.

Life is in a constant state of flux. Constant changes are definite, but it’s this BIG Change that I’m referring to that has me all over the place now. This change symbolizes a new beginning, not just a chapter. Because it is placing me on the path to finding self, goals, and a career. I’ve been running and putting it at the end of the line because I was doing what everyone else wanted or expected of me. I would motivate myself with everyone’s repetitious drivel as to why I had to do it. “Because I’m supposed to; it’s my duty and responsibility; I’m the only one that can and will…” That’s how it was for a long time. In the present, I don’t have a choice anymore; now, I’m forced to take care of Jasmine. Many may think it’s selfish. It’s called self-preservation.

I’m not God or Jesus. I can’t save everyone; sometimes we, as human beings, delude ourselves into thinking we can save or change people. The hard fact to swallow is we can’t. We try to help those who won’t even help themselves. We drown by attempting to help them when we’re enabling them. People have to help themselves first. Then, after putting some work behind the action, I can do what I can. This lesson was, and is, still a difficult pill to swallow. I keep giving, selflessly. Right now, I don’t have anything to give; I poured so much of myself out. Do I regret it? No. It’s just a lesson I had to really grasp.

At the age of 30, I’m terrified. I don’t know what’s going to happen, and I don’t have any control over it. I HAVE to walk this path no matter what. I want to pursue my passion, a career, not a job. A friend of mine reminded me, “A lot of people tell you to go to school and get a job, so I chose a career. Because at ‘Career Day’, you’re looking for a career.” When he said that, it resonated with me. It made so much sense.

I may not have wealth, accolades, pleasant, physical features, a mansion, or five different vehicles. Who cares? For the first time in my life, I going to pursue a relationship with myself – a committed relationship to love within intimately that it radiates! Self-fulfillment is really one of my goals! I can’t spend another 30 years waiting for others to do it; I have to start right now. No more waiting.

Yes, I’m suffering a meltdown –  the meltdown is necessary. I have to be broken down in order to start anew, to be the woman God has been calling me to be all this time. I won’t lie; I didn’t want to be that woman. I just wanted to be me. Actually, I don’t even know who I am that’s why I’m on this path to find out.

Yes, I’m screaming on the inside. We all are. I’m going to turn those screams into cheers instead. Chapter 30 was an introspection of the choices I’ve made and a question of redemption. Am I worth saving? I’m trying to save everyone, anyone else. But who’s going to save me?

Chapter 30, I don’t care about being revolutionary. I care about the Evolutionary; I have to get to the next stage. I have to keep learning and growing. I have an insatiable hunger! Evolution is a necessity! I won’t be satisfied until I have it!

My journey is just beginning. I will have to walk it, embrace it in order to see.

I will be sharing my poetic piece in the next blog, “Interim”. Hope you guys like it.

Seeking and Finding the Way – My Way

This is my first blog; of course, I was supposed to do it yesterday, but lol, my body and mind can’t keep up like it used to.

But I digress…..

For the past few weeks, I have been getting signs about concentrating on my writing by perfecting and researching my craft. A friend of mine was sharing with me how writing is more than a hobby. And I agree with her. My writing has always been more than just a hobby to me. I’ve very passionate about it.

I’ve been writing poetry for 15 + years now, but I was never really confident about it. Back then it was more of a therapeutic release; I had a problem expressing myself, and nobody listened to me. I was the quiet, wall flower – the good girl. Pretty soon, that was my label.  Poetry means more to me than many will ever grasp. It saved my life -it also led me to discovering a similar passion and respect for English. Yea, I said it….KML, I did not like English when I was younger. I loved to read, but I hated English. LOL, now….I have to discipline myself to read and I love English.

I have 3 degrees: 2 Associates and a BA. Since I had the 2 Associates, I focused on getting a real job, making money, and kinda help me climb up the ladder. But after a few years, I still have been unable to get a (what my mom would call) “real” job. I became depressed, stressed…..and one day, when I tried to write…for the first time, I lost my voice, my perspective, etc.

This past year has been a journey for me – A journey of self- discovery.  I gave so much of myself to people in general, sacrificed, and I never thought about it until now. I used to get frustrated because I do not like to sit still. I’m used to being busy, on the go, etc. But I’m grateful that God made me sit still and actually think what I want for myself. Not what everybody else want, but what I want for myself.

I still don’t have a job….yet. But I have been focusing more on my writing and what I want to pursue as a career. I want to become a CopyEditor. Still researching what to do to become one and how in the world I’m going to get experience. It’s a process -Process is progress.

I had to learn that failure is the process for success – that’s one of my fears being a failure. No, things did not or have not worked out the way I was hoping. However, I am praying that God just continue to lead and guide me down this path.

Although, I still want a job, I’m still going to work toward become a CopyEditor. I want to be happy and passionate in my field – my career. I refuse to do “Another day, another dollar.”

I do feel like I’m always trying to play catch up with people who are either already married, children, homes, careers, etc and all that. But now, I’m back to the original “Slow and steady wins the race.” “The race is not given to the swift but to the one who can endure.” (Yea, that’s a verse from the Bible, and I paraphrased it; but ,don’t ask me what Chapter, Verse, or Book ). KML.

Additionally, I am interested in Taoism – the way. I believe in following your own path; everyone’s path is not yours vice versa for somebody wanting your path. You have to find your OWN WAY – that’s what I’m doing seeking, finding my way. And I must say I’m more at peace now than I have been in years.

I don’t know where it’s going to lead or what the destination maybe, but I’m walking.